Forgiveness

Forgiveness is a good and noble thing. It releases our hearts. But it is NOT about forgetting what has happened or being naive and allowing others to abuse us in a similar manner over and over. Forgiveness does not automatically flip the trust switch to on again. Forgiveness does not mean that we have to pretend that the things that occurred never happened or that we can never speak of them again. It means that you realize that mistakes happen. You forgive the act and release as best you can the bitterness and anger that accompany it.  If you are still angry, or bitter; that is okay. Let yourself deal with those emotions naturally. Let them go naturally. Don't hold on to them. But do not let others tell you how long to feel badly about what happened. Allow yourself the courtesy of acknowledging your pain. Forgiveness does not equate with the absence of pain. It means you can still feel the pain, but release the need to hold on to a grudge. Forgive, but do not be afraid or shamed into pretending it never happened. That would be a disservice to everyone involved. <3 Mishka